Tiny Buddha helps me stay in the here and now calling BS on romance!
Real love is not the childish fantasy of perfection in couplehood, like freedom in a fem-hy commercial is wearing white pants on horse back.
It's every day maturity and interaction and understanding and caring. It's every day showing up and being a feeling and supportive partner. That's work.
Then if you find yourself having a candlelit dinner with your chosen one, you can enjoy it for what it is: a beautiful night with someone you love.