Which “Multi-” Matters Most in Love?

I’ve been trying to figure out which #community I’ve joined since marrying the shogun, which “label” matters most. Which way would I categorize our #relationship if I had to pick the most relevant descriptor? #Multilingual, #multinational, #multicultural, multi- #ethnic?

I asked the shogun about our mixed #marriage, about what he thought was the most significant difference between us. 

“Man and woman,” he said–which illustrates where the multilingual part comes in. 

Since I made no headway at the source, I’ll ask here what people in similar relationships think.

I rarely think of myself in a multicultural marriage in the #American sense, because when I research what others are writing and thinking about it in the U.S., it seems like the focus is on people from different ethnic groups. But if the shogun were #Japanese American, not Japanese Japanese, I think our marriage would be vastly different.

So that makes the think the multinational aspect is the most significant. It’s certainly the one I focus on the most, on a daily basis, but that’s because I live in his country, half a globe away from my home, where I barely speak the language and can only read the nonverbal signs correctly about a quarter of the time. Maybe it’s the mix of #expat and non-expat, then? That he’s the one who navigates fluidly through our life and community, while I need to rely on him for almost everything practical and social? (Never thought I’d be in a marriage when I needed to ask my husband for money, but then again I never thought I’d be in a marriage where the ATM machines play cartoon pictures of uniformed bank tellers bowing at me).

So I wonder, if you’re in a similar partnership, or imagining being in one, what multi matters most?

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