Fear not

I know it's late. And you've been stuck at work, or stuck at home, or driving around all day trying to finish things, or get your kids places, or do a bunch of things for other people.

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And maybe people have said some hurtful things to you, or you know people are going to say hurtful things over the next few days. And things are breaking or broken. And you might be broke. And everything that's supposed to be done isn't done.

You are exactly who you're supposed to be. You are exactly right.

And if you're in the middle of the wrong story right now, or even just the wrong chapter of the right story, you can use this next year to get into the right story.

And if you're in the right story, but this is just the boring and icky part, keep going, and you'll get to a better part soon.

I wrote this exactly two years ago, and it's as true now as it was then:

"The one thing I know for absolute sure, especially at this time of year, is that sometimes the best choice is walking away.

If you've been trying and trying and putting everything you can into it, and it still isn't what you need, that's your sign. End it, and you'll be free for something better.

We're so conditioned to think that we can't quit or we've failed. But that denies the fact that some situations aren't completely under our control. And there's huge value in knowing when to fold 'em and moving into a situation with the possibility for success.


Breathe in on a count of four, hold it on a count of seven, and then breathe out on a count of eight.

Thanks for reading. Courage.

Heavy winds

The wind has been blowing like crazy for two days here. Yesterday I was in a coffee shop waiting to pick my son up from school and I was watching people walk from their cars into the coffee shop. They'd get out of their cars, step out into the wind and brace themselves, pushing their way through the gusts toward the store, then open the door and yank it so it didn't blow all the way open, and then step into the store. Every person had a look of shock on their faces as they stepped in, and then they all did a little systems check and reset before they stepped up to the counter to order.

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It was very human, and funny only because we all did the same thing. When confronted with adversity, even adversity we can't see, humans push through until we get where we're going, but then we need to reset and make sure we're ok before we can do what we came to do.

I am going to suggest that you gather your tools and techniques for getting through these next six weeks. Evaluate how many times you really need to walk across the parking lot through the wind, or if there's some other way to do what absolutely needs to be done at the end of the year. Prepare for what you need to do. And keep your friends and the people who love you close.

The whole red cup brouhaha of the last week is telling us that we're already getting stressed about getting stressed.

Thanks for reading. Courage.