Best of the 2015 AskMoxie emails
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Best of the 2015 AskMoxie emails
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Heavy winds

The wind has been blowing like crazy for two days here. Yesterday I was in a coffee shop waiting to pick my son up from school and I was watching people walk from their cars into the coffee shop. They'd get out of their cars, step out into the wind and brace themselves, pushing their way through the gusts toward the store, then open the door and yank it so it didn't blow all the way open, and then step into the store. Every person had a look of shock on their faces as they stepped in, and then they all did a little systems check and reset before they stepped up to the counter to order.

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It was very human, and funny only because we all did the same thing. When confronted with adversity, even adversity we can't see, humans push through until we get where we're going, but then we need to reset and make sure we're ok before we can do what we came to do.

I am going to suggest that you gather your tools and techniques for getting through these next six weeks. Evaluate how many times you really need to walk across the parking lot through the wind, or if there's some other way to do what absolutely needs to be done at the end of the year. Prepare for what you need to do. And keep your friends and the people who love you close.

The whole red cup brouhaha of the last week is telling us that we're already getting stressed about getting stressed.

Thanks for reading. Courage. 

Things that are true about toddlers are true about teens, too

Thank you for all the congratulations! I'm not sure anyone's ever been celebrated as much for being so mediocre before. ;-) It is remarkably complicated to process that people do think you're worthy even when you're not amazing, isn't it?

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I had one of those moments yesterday when something utterly random clicks: When my kids were little and in that "running and falling and smashing their heads on things" stage, my mom often said, "God couldn't make them so fast and us so slow if she didn't also make their heads so hard." (Imagine it in her Minnesota lilt.)

At the time it completely made sense. Little kids are really durable, for the most part, which is good because adults are way too slow to catch them every time they bolt. Head injuries are scary and you always feel like it's your fault, even when you couldn't do anything to stop them.

But the other day I was thinking about that saying again and it hit me that it's also about tweens and teens! Only it's not about physical head injuries, but about their being so stubborn and durable and growing into exactly who they are. It is brutally hard keeping up with where your tween/teen is emotionally and socially--they're making connections and trying on new things constantly to see if they fit, and we're still wondering if we need to be on Snapchat and if they're still friends with the kid next door. But despite the fact that we're too slow to preview everything our kids are going to do to make sure it's safe or to hold the door open for them into protected exploration, they know who they are. They carry everything we've taught them with them, and they keep pushing forward, and discarding what doesn't fit and sticking everything else into their toolbelts while they move on to the next thing.

The slow shift of control from us to them.

Thanks for reading. Courage.

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