When you're in a relationship, you might think that you don't have to 'work' at making it run smoothly. After all, good relationships should be naturally easy, right? Wrong! The truth of the matter is that everyone has to work hard when they are with another person. If you want to make sure that you're both on the right page, you have to put in some work each and every day.
The best place to start is with communication. That is to say that you need to have some frank and tricky conversations now and then. Not sure where to start? Then you've come to the right place. Here are just five to get you going.
1. The money talk
Finances matter. No matter how much you say that money is 'no big deal' or just 'part of life', you know the truth. If one of you earns more than the other, the issue will come up from time to time. It's far better that you tackle this problem head-on when things are going well than to start bickering about it when they are not. Sit down and chat about your financial situation. It may be dull, but it will be worth it.
2. The DTR chat
Are you sure you're exclusive? If you're not, you need to have a serious talk with your partner. There's no gray areas when it comes to love. Things are simple here. Either you are together (and not seeing anyone else) or you're not. Find out which it is before you get hurt.
3. The exes talk
You may say that you don't want to hear about someone's exes and the like, but is that really the case? You need to make sure that you know what their love past is before you can be their future. It may hurt to hear it, but you should know what their exes were like and why it ended.
4. The sorry conversation
If you can't say you're sorry in a relationship, there's a real issue. We all mess things up now and then and have to admit that we were wrong. Pride is the only thing that stops people saying that big old S-word. It's also a dumb thing that can ruin any relationship if it gets the chance. Sort it out.
5. The future chat
Where do you see this relationship going? We all have at least a vague idea of how we want our lives to pan out. You need to share that intel with your partner to check that you're on the same page. If your plans don't align, it's far better to know earlier than later.
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