If you’re a normal human being with emotions and feelings, then odds are you’ve gone through some sort of romantic heartbreak as some point in your life.
Everyone’s been there and everyone has their story to tell, so I won’t bore you with mine. I will, however, share one valuable piece of information that I think everyone should know: it’s OK to not end up with the love of your life.
That might sound depressing, but it’s not as bad as you may think. For starters, just finding someone that you’re so in love with and who you want to spend every moment of every day with for the rest of your life is a miraculous feat unto itself.
Do you realize how many people there are on this planet? Or the geographical odds of being placed in that specific place at that specific time to have met? Don’t even get me started on eras and being born at the right time in history…
Simply finding that someone special is a wonderful achievement that should not be overlooked. Having a relationship with that person is even more incredible. Having that relationship come to an end, well, it will suck.
That’s a fact that I cannot change, nor can anyone. However, having it come to an end shouldn’t be the funeral that everyone treats it as; it’s not some major tragedy. It’s not something to be mourned and pushed out of mind and forgotten about. If you had the luxury of spending a slice of time, be in a couple weeks or a couple months or a couple years, with the person who you consider the love of your life, then that’s 1,000 percent something to be celebrated.
Another sad truth is that finding the love of your life doesn’t automatically mean that you’re going to be the love of their life. Sometimes that just isn’t the case. You may think the two of you are perfect, but they may disagree.
You may consider yourself to be golden, but they may prefer silver. The truth is that a relationship requires two commitments, and if one person isn’t as invested then there’s nothing the other one can do about it. You can’t force love, you can’t negotiate love, and you can’t bargain with it.
The point is this: be grateful. Be grateful for what you got to experience, however long it may have been. Be grateful for the time you had; cherish those memories fondly. Be grateful that you got to share time and space with someone that made you feel like you’ve never felt before. Don’t be greedy. Don’t whine and complain about wanting more just because what you had is over.
The simple fact that it happened is a blessing you should learn to appreciate.
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