Your sexual fantasies can indicate your personality. Of course, fantasies’ primary purpose is to pique your desire, but the types of sexual escapades that you imagine can also reveal a lot about how you see yourself and the world around you.
Justin Lehmiller, a social psychologist and research fellow at the Kinsey Institute, has done a study to further learn about what Americans fantasize about and what it means. His is the largest and most comprehensive study of its kind on this topic. He surveyed more than 4,000 Americans from 18 to 87 years of age and with a wide range of occupations, sexual and gender identities, and political and religious affiliations about their sexual fantasies.
23Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life
Some of his most intriguing findings:
More common ground than thought earlier
Although every fantasy is unique, Lehmiller found that most yield to three categories: group sex, BDSM (bondage, dominance/submission, sadomasochism, etc.), and novelty or adventure. Within these categories, threesomes, bondage and trying new positions or having sex in new locations came up as the most popula fantasies.
Romantic partner is the center of fantasies
59My results suggest that the one person who is most likely to appear in your sexual fantasies is -- believe it or not -- your current romantic partner
Your personality may reflect your fantasies
Should we act upon our fantasies?
So should you confide your fantasies to your partner or even act on them? The answer depends on several factors. Sharing sexual fantasies can certainly bring you closer as a couple and make your sex life more exciting. But acting your fantasies comes with some risks.
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