2) The Competition of Preparation
Saturdays we usually would meet up with them, at one of their houses. By the start of their second trimesters, the nurseries were already designed and furnished. Even the closets were filled with clothes on petite hangers. Can, as he toured their cute baby rooms, would question me upon leaving on why we hadn’t even begun to think about furnishing ours. I had several reasons for waiting, the main one the fear stated above. The second, my hands-on nanny experience. I remembered that most of the babies I cared for slept in a small bassinet or cradle next to the parent’s bed for at least the first three months. We rarely entered the nursery unless we were picking out an outfit or something else. Diapers were changed in the living room, rarely if ever on the fancy, expensive, changing table in the baby room. Personally, I felt that Can and I didn’t need to rush out and fork money over to equip a nursery; by my calculations, we had at least another three months if not more before our little one would get any use out of it. Instead, we started to buy practical things that we would immediately use first.
Our first big purchase was a small playpen that had a raised bed and mattress for an infant. This was practical because it was small and could fit next to our bed, could be used while our son was an infant, and converted later into a playpen for use as a toddler or as a travel bed. It could fold up relatively easy and would be easy to store. I opted for this rather than a traditional Moses Basket or bassinet, as I felt we could get more use out of it. I could also attach a small apparatus at the end for changing diapers and small pouches along the side conveniently could hold creams, diapers and wipes.