He was your family first, but I committed body & soul
Yeah I get it, he was your family first. But frankly, I need some time before you arrive at my house. It's been a loooong time.
And by that I mean EXACTLY what you think I mean.
I mean that I have married this man, committed to him body and soul. We have now been apart for months on end. There are some things that need to happen, and I don't think you want to be there for that. It might get awkward...