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‘My boyfriend asked for a threesome’: Here's what you should do next

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‘My boyfriend asked for a threesome’: Here's what you should do next

It’s a fantasy for some and a nightmare for others. So, what should you do if your boyfriend asks you to have a threesome? Here’s how to handle the question.

First of all, you need to figure out how you feel about the request. If it seemingly came out of the blue, you may not know how to react. Now is not the time to make rash decisions. Your boyfriend needs to understand just what he is asking of you right now and give you the time to consider how you honestly feel about it. Don’t be afraid to tell him that you need some time to mull it over. It’s only natural.

If you’re not ready to take this step sexually, you have to say so. No one should push you into a situation you’re not comfortable with. And, remember, only you get to dictate what you want to do here. If you’ve made up your mind that you’re not open to a threesome, it’s time to spill the beans. Sit your partner down and explain why you don’t want to do it. You have to be as clear as possible when explaining how the question has made you feel.

Should you decide that you are comfortable with having a threesome (or that you can’t wait to try it), there’s more to talk about. This is not something that can be entered into lightly. Now is the time when you and your partner need to sit down together and have a really frank talk about your boundaries and what you want. You will need to chat about how this will affect your current relationship.

Now, it’s time to get down to the nitty, gritty details. There will be one major question that both of you will be pondering — who will the third person be? You need to decide if you’re happy with it being another woman or another man. After that, you should set out some ground rules. Will it be someone you know? Would you prefer a stranger? Where do you want to do it? Talk these questions over with your partner.

Finally, you should remember to take things as slowly as you need to. Again, this is not something that you need to rush into, and so you just need to take your time. Make sure that both of you are 100 percent happy before you go for it.

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