Love bombing is the new dangerous dating trend

Chrisa Theodoraki
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Chrisa Theodoraki
Love bombing is the new dangerous dating trend

If you thought breadcrumbing is the absolute worst thing that could happen to your love life, wait till you hear about love bombing.

Sure, having someone liking random Instagram posts and posting ambiguous comments below your Facebook updates — just enough to keep you interested, but not enough to allow space for any real romantic expectations — is narcissistic, wrong and abusive. But so is showering the person with online attention, love-struck emojis, future promises and grand gestures that suddenly make you feel like you have finally found the One. And then one day see them turn sour cold turkey, intentionally leaving you thinking you have done something terribly wrong. You then spend hours breaking your head over what your wrongdoing was.

Don’t blame yourself; you’ve been a victim of love bombing.

And that’s exactly, what this dangerous new trend is: a blend of good ole' romantic deception, with a generous amount of online flattery that includes heart-warming Gifs and passionate digital gifts (which, let’s face it, don’t cost anything). Don’t confuse it with real romantic interest; it’s an attempt to manipulate and make the victim dependent. Sociopaths and narcissists are obsessed with “love-bombing” because it gives them the sense of control and power than they crave. They become leaders of the game and they are in charge of your mood and emotions. And nothing gives those sickos more pleasure.

Of course, love bombing as an act of leading on unsuspecting desperate-for-love victims has existed since the beginning of time. But with modern technology offering an endless choice of dating apps it is now increasingly easy to lead on, lie and abuse someone.

The difference between ghosting and love bombing is that the former doesn’t use extreme flattery and manipulation. Someone can ghost you unintentionally, but love bombing is a premeditated nefarious act.

How to avoid love bombing? Just ignore any exaggerated signs of interest by someone. No person in their right mind would promise to take you on a romantic trip around the world, when they hardly know you. This alone is a major red flag. When something sounds too good to be true, then, I hate to say it, it probably is. 

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