There will be many times in your life when you will feel dejected for a number of reasons, only to realize later that it is up to you to feel what you want to feel without getting affected by what others have to say to you. Many people call it fate or destiny, but ultimately one thing that equally matters is your life choices. It is your life choices that allow you to experience different kinds of relations, emotions, things, and circumstances. Once you realize that your life is dictated by the choices you make, you start accepting your reality and taking personal responsibility for your life decisions.
People who fail to take personal responsibility for their life circumstances, inculcate a habit of blaming their failures on a number of external factors. But, in reality, it is up to you to choose and take action for or against things that might affect your life in some way or the other. You cannot sit passively and spend your entire life waiting for a miracle to happen to you. But, in order to fulfill your dreams and aspirations, you need to accept the responsibility that life has thrown at you and take the required action in every phase of your life. Ultimately, you need to remember that life is not a race. You need to cross all the hurdles that come in your way, while owning your mistakes and other life choices and that too without having the need to feel shattered or disempowered.